There’s something rather peaceful about being single, mature, and female in 2023. We’re rather established in our jobs/careers; we enjoy the freedom of movement and action our mothers and grandmothers didn’t; we’re long over the need to impress others with our looks, our style, and our degrees. In short, we can be far more authentically ourselves, whatever we have chosen that to be (with special thanks to Susan B. Anthony, Gloria Steinman, Betty Friedan, Bella Abzug, Lily Ledbetter, and many more).
And what about dating? Fortunately, we are far more “liberated” in this area of our lives too. Gone are the days of waiting with bated breath for some guy to call us and ask us out. We can take the initiative if we so choose. We can strike up a conversation with a man most anywhere we happen to be. And as long as we keep our personal safety in mind, we can suggest a meetup for coffee, lunch, or whatever. Isn’t that just so refreshing?
Now, how do we go about meeting men of the quality that we want? We have a number of options here:
- We can join singles groups locally and participate in all of their activities
- We can let friends and family know that we are interested in dating – they will find potentials for us to consider
- We can take a course or two that capture our interest – there may be men with a similar interest enrolled too
- We can register with online dating sites like the https://hily.com/. Once a profile is completed, we will begin to get “matches” that have similar lifestyles and interests. The good thing about dating apps? We can chat and get to know someone online before we agree to have an in-person meetup. It’s a great filtering process that beats “kissing a lot of toads.”
You Bring a Lot to the Table
Once you realize how much you offer as a dating partner, you need to consider all of the benefits a man has when dating you.
You are much more settled into who you are. Younger women are still trying to figure this out. They may change who they are to “fit” a man they are infatuated with, and that is never a good thing. Their real selves come out eventually, and that can ruin a relationship.
You are not into playing the “games” that younger women often play in the whole courting/dating scene. You are well past that – authenticity is the name of your game.
You are self-confident and not prone to jealousy. You don’t need to “check in” with your dating partner throughout the day and night. And you appreciate someone who has that same confidence, so you can have your own independence.
You tend to be more private about your dating relationship. You are not broadcasting it all over social media like most young people do.
You know what your deal breakers are, and you stick to them. And when a man hits one of those, you confidently walk away without pain and anger.
You don’t resent their successes, their achievements, or their need to pursue their own interests and activities within their own social circles. You have your own too.
You have all of your younger years of dating experience under your belt. You’ve fallen in love, had heartbreaks, caused heartbreaks, perhaps married, made mistakes. All of these are lessons you learned during those years, and you are prepared not to make those same mistakes again.
If you are seeing a pattern here, you are correct. You are comfortable in your own skin; you are confident in what you want in a dating relationship. And you are ready to date someone who is the same. He’s out there.